When slutty sluts act like a prude

Isn’t it just rich when people you know were slutty sluts in their youth act like they never had sex when they are talking in front of the young folks? Like how are you looking down your nose at this corset right now? You fucked everything that moved.

There is something sinister about that. Acting all innocent in front of your kids. Making them feel bad about their perfectly normal activities and feelings. Why downplay your sluttiness now? As a man you’re admired for it. So why lean into the double standard and shame your daughter for wanting to feel sexy?

I’m proud of her sexual being. It’s part of who she is and I hope she gets to explore it and enjoy it just like you did. And I hope when she does she is praised for her bravery. It’s not easy putting yourself out there. It takes guts to engage with another human. I admire the vulnerability and encourage the excursions. It’s how you learn, it’s healthy, it’s called dating. You did it a bunch.

I share my past with her in an age appropriate way. I am open and truthful and I share my successes and my failures. I don’t pretend to be virtuous, I don’t lie. I let her see the truth and make her own conclusions. Which is brave. And good. And I wish you were more like me. Our adult child deserves that. Let her in and be real. Stand behind your choices, and support hers, because it’s the right thing to do. The posturing has to stop. It’s damaging. It’s silly. Don’t do that.